🎙️"When no doesn't mean"! 🎧
🎙️ podcast version: "When no doesn't mean no"! 🎧
Hey everyone, todays topic is about Real Boundaries. We are going to talk about what it really means to protect your peace, your energy, and yourself.
Today’s episode is called “When ‘No’ Isn’t Enough.”
Because sometimes, no matter how clear or polite we are, someone just doesn’t get the message — or refuses to.
Let’s talk about what to do when a person won’t respect your boundaries, and things start to feel… creepy.
Okay, first — let’s start with the basics.
You’ve already told this person, “I don’t want to stay in touch,” or “I need you to stop contacting me.”
You’ve been firm, maybe even kind, but they keep reaching out.
At that point, it’s not about communication anymore. It’s about control.
They’re testing how far they can push.
So the first rule?
Stop engaging.
No responses, no explanations, no “just one last message.”
You don’t owe them closure — your silence is the closure.
The next step is protection, not politeness.
Start documenting everything — texts, DMs, calls, screenshots, times they show up.
Don’t delete anything, even if it’s uncomfortable to look at.
If they ever cross the line from “annoying” to “intimidating,” that record becomes your proof — for the police, for a restraining order, or even just to remind yourself that your fear is valid.
Then — tighten your digital circle.
Block them everywhere: your phone, socials, even payment apps.
Make your accounts private. Tell your friends, coworkers, or neighbors what’s going on.
You’re not being dramatic — you’re being proactive.
And if this person starts showing up or tracking your movements, that’s not “creepy.”
That’s stalking.
At that point, your next call should be to law enforcement or a local support hotline.
If you’re in the U.S., you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or chat with someone confidentially at thehotline.org.
They help with stalking, harassment, or even when you’re just not sure what to call it — but you know it feels wrong.
And remember — you don’t have to wait until something “really bad” happens.
Creepy is enough.
Uncomfortable is enough.
You have the right to feel safe before things escalate.
It’s hard, I know.
Especially if this person was once close to you — a friend, ex, coworker.
But setting boundaries isn’t cruel; it’s self-respect in action.
You’re not being “mean.”
You’re saying, “I choose peace over fear.”
And that’s one of the bravest things anyone can do.
Thanks for listening to Real Boundaries.
If you found this helpful, share it with someone who might need a little reminder that “no” is a full sentence — and that they deserve to feel safe.
Signing off and until next time, protect your peace, and protect yourself.
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Date: Nov 1, 2025 (c)
